The Art of Letting Go


No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,
- Philippians 4:13

I use to hate whenever people talked about letting go of the past. It's like how do you do that?!?! How does one go through various hurts, trials, and tragedies and just "let go". It use to be one of those things that I would often respond to with, "easier said than done". and YES while it is easier said than done it can be done. Beloved, wallowing, holding onto and using your past as an excuse might be comfortable however it is hindering you from growth. Our problems are meant to develop us, to sharpen us and to GROW us. The past is gone beloved! It's a new day with new mercies. The Bible promises that God gives us new mercies every single day. We're not running off of last years, last night's or last week's mercies. The mercy God has for you today is FRESH, it's brand spanking new. What does that tell us about God? It tells us SO much about Him but one thing we can take from that today is that God isn't about being stuck in the past. Princess, it's time to let go. Paul said in Philippians 4:13 that although he hasn't arrived he isn't perfect one thing he does do is focus on the future not his past and Paul had a vast past. I have no idea what your past consist of I don't know what exactly what you've been through or what you've done. One thing I do know is that nothing in your past can stand against the great sacrifice made for you by Christ. 

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
2 Corinthians 5:17

Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in the past. We take on a victim mentality causing us to see ourselves as helpless, worthless and beyond help. Those are just lies of the enemy of your soul! You are never helpless because the Lord is a present help in times of need. You have NEVER been worthless because even when you were still a sinner Jesus deemed you worthy of His own life. You are not beyond help because none of your circumstances, pain or problems are a match for the blood that was shed for you on the cross. Princess, you are NOT a victim. You are a royal daughter of the King, wounded but royal indeed. 

The question still lingers, how do you really let go? One day at time, sometimes moment by moment choosing Christ over your pain. How do you choose Christ over your pain? By choosing into love. Hurt and pain are designed to make you zero in on yourself. They are both very selfish emotions that lead to selfish thoughts which lead to selfish actions which is followed by a self-centered, bitter, angry lifestyle. Hurt and pain whisper, "look what they did to me", "what about me?" I'm not saying that you shouldn't feel hurt or pain but I am challenging how you deal with that hurt and pain. You can't stay there beloved. It is unhealthy to believe we can wallow in our feelings.  Some of us just need to tell our feelings to SHUT UP. You deal with your pain, you talk through you pain, you work through your hurt but you don't sit in it that's where pity parties come from. Gotta cry? Oh honey cry your little heart out. Put 10 minutes on your oven timer and cry your eyes out.  When your 10 minutes is up you GET UP and do something about your pain. Remember our pain is meant to grow us NOT chain us. Don't be kept captive or bound by your hurt and pain which are matters of the past.

"Let the past sleep, but let it sleep on the bosom of Christ."  - Oswald Chambers

Princess,
Choose to lay your past at Christ feet and press towards the future. No more excuses. No more games. No more pity parties and wallowing in what you can not change. Here's the beautiful thing about laying your past at Christ feet when you give him your ashes in Isaiah it promises us that God will give us beauty. Jesus never wallowed in His hurt or pain and Jesus had many reasons to be hurt and full of pain but He loved regardless of what was done to Him. He was the example for us. Beloved, choose to let go of your past in 2013 and live the abundant life God has for you.

β€œI have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.”
- Mother Teresa