Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, 2 older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity. 1 Timothy 5:1-2
Women all over the world men bash, one of the reasons they bash is because some men often use women for sex. They use their words to swoon you into their direction and get you to do what they want and oh they say all the right things. Yes this manipulation is a reality but are they alone in this? Women all over the world manipulate too. We flaunt our bodies and charm with our beauty to receive what we want too. We pretend to be something we are not and even do shameful things all to receive love, double standard much? You may be shaking your head like oh no girl that's not the same. Well why not? Both parties are guilty of giving the other party what they desire to get what they selfishly want. Yes indeed ladies, we too have been apart of the double standard and it is not okay. Let's come up higher beloved, no more double standard.
1 Timothy is so clear on how we ought to treat the men in our lives, the older as fathers and the young as brothers. This makes for manipulation free relationships. Why do we need manipulation free relationships? Because God never intended for us to long for something so bad that we would hurt someone else or use someone else to get it. People are not tools, they are hearts, and souls that God loves madly. The guy you text late at night is not some toy for you to pick up when you're lonely then put back on the shelf during the day. People have never been and are not now toys, so quit using them as such for any means!
Your desire for love, that longing for intimacy and connection in itself is not bad. You were designed and created to relate and be relational, to have connection and live in intimacy. This desire turns into lust when we go to people to fulfill it rather than God!!!
For in Christ all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form, and in Christ you have been brought to fullness. He is the head over every power and authority.
- Colossians 2:9-10
You are bought to fullness in CHRIST alone, not in Mike, not in Ray-ray, not in Gucci, or any other name! Beloved, do not cast your heart to every romantic wind but allow the essence, the author of love, love Himself to pursue your heart, allow God the lover of your soul to make you whole and complete you.
but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life."
- John 4:14
Princess, drink the living water. Every other fountain will have you thirsty and longing for more. Do not be apart of the double standard any longer, drink from the living water that already belongs to you. In Christ you have all that you need.