But It's My Fault ...



Do nothing to the young woman; she has committed no crime worthy of death. She is as innocent as a murder victim.
- Deuteronomy 22:26

After abuse one of the most common beliefs and phrases for victims is "but, it's my fault". How crazy is it that after we have been attacked and forcibly hurt that we say but it's my fault. Then comes all of the I should have done this and I could have done this further more digging us deeper into a hole of regret and self-blame. Why do we do this? There are quite a few theories but I'll share mine. I believe we do this, I believe I've done this because if you say it is your fault then you can also say that you can prevent it from happening again. Admitting that what happened to you was out of your control also means that you being hurt again is out of your control. After experiencing trauma the last thing you want to come to terms with is that you can't control this happening again. You feel so alone, exposed and violated your first response is how can I keep this from happening again. Even the Bible recognizes that rape is never the fault of the victim. The scripture above says that she is innocent. Princess, you are innocent. Beloved, you have committed no crime, release your prisoner. 

WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU IS NOT YOUR FAULT

WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU IS NOT YOUR FAULT

WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU IS NOT YOUR FAULT

WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU IS NOT YOUR FAULT

WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU IS NOT YOUR FAULT

WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU IS NOT YOUR FAULT

(I once read a statistics that said for every one negative statement you need six positive statements)

I realize this is a daily process. I even encourage you to put Deuteronomy 22:26 around common spaces in your home so truth can constantly be before your eyes. The enemy of your soul wants you to believe it is your fault because as long as you believe that you can't heal and you can't move forward. Abba desires for you to be healed, He is your healer! He desires for you to progress past this not to forget but to go and help others who have been abused. Receive truth today Beloved, the rape you endured is not your fault, you are innocent, you have committed no crime, what happened to you is not your fault.

My prayer for you is that you would desire truth, seek truth, receive truth, and walk in truth. I pray that you would choose into your healing process, diving into it head first trusting Abba to walk with you every step of the way. In Jesus name, Amen!









If you are a victim of rape I urge you to find a trusted friend you can talk to about this experience and if you have never been to the doctor concerning what happened to you I strongly encourage you to do so. For more info on rape help for yourself or helping someone who has been raped visit rainn.org